REJECTION [ri-ˈjek-shən]
: a noun which means the action of rejecting; or the state of being rejected.
From a child's viewpoint, it is simply:
when you are not accepted or welcome.
when you are not accepted or welcome.
Now, it seems that everyone out there hasn't really outgrown the feeling of rejection.
How it all started with you is most likely different from how it started with another person.
The feeling of being rejected can be felt as early as childhood. For some, it can actually surface during teenage years and early adulthood where your ideas, opinions, habits, lifestyle, or even personality is not accepted by those around you – or worse, the people who matter to you.
So no matter how confident or secure you think you are, at some point when you feel rejected, everything seems to come crumbling down.
And most often times this is the root of every adult's depression, insecurities, and de-motivation.
Knowing how to handle rejection can build up your confidence and make life easier and much more worthwhile.
A few pointers on how to handle rejection:
- BE POSITIVE, STAY POSITIVE!
The moment you stop believing in yourself is the moment things become hopeless.
NOBODY'S PERFECT – INCLUDING THE ONE WHO REJECTED YOU
You're only human, right? You have certain issues – so does other people; including the one who rejected you. In everything that happens in your life, it's not always about you. Actually, often times, it's usually them. When someone rejects you, they dislike you – but not really you. It could be you remind them of someone they had a bad experience with, or you could have projected an image that actually mirrored theirs which got them criticized in the past, or many other possibilities.
You're only human, right? You have certain issues – so does other people; including the one who rejected you. In everything that happens in your life, it's not always about you. Actually, often times, it's usually them. When someone rejects you, they dislike you – but not really you. It could be you remind them of someone they had a bad experience with, or you could have projected an image that actually mirrored theirs which got them criticized in the past, or many other possibilities.
So don't feel bad because at that time they could have been battling with their issues and you just got to meet them at a bad time.
If there's anything worse than being rejected, it's playing it over and over in your mind! It happened – let it go! The more you dwell on it, the worse you feel, the lower your confidence goes, as well your self-esteem. Sounds like a good start to retreating into your
own world and becoming anti-social. So let it go, distract yourself; find a hobby, do something interesting. Before you know it, you're well over the feeling of rejection and you have handled it well.
- STOP DWELLING ON IT
If there's anything worse than being rejected, it's playing it over and over in your mind! It happened – let it go! The more you dwell on it, the worse you feel, the lower your confidence goes, as well your self-esteem. Sounds like a good start to retreating into your own world and becoming anti-social. So let it go, distract yourself; find a hobby, do something interesting. Before you know it, you're well over the feeling of rejection and you have handled it well.
- CRY, LET IT OUT, THAT'S IT!
If what happened hurt you, go ahead and CRY. Cry, cry, cry – let it out. But that's it. Talk to your friends and family about it, and that's it. Bottling up the negative feelings brought about by rejection can eat you up and even destroy you, in a way. So let it out, it's healthy. But don't dwell on it. Don't go into self-pity. Snap out of self-pity, see how others' rejections have been worse than yours, and start living again.
- SEE THE ENTIRE PICTURE, NOT JUST PART OF IT
For some, the moment of rejection defines their existence. That's just a small portion of the entire picture. Instead of just looking at what's right in front of you, try moving a few steps backward – you'll be amazed at how beautiful the picture is. (And you'll be asking yourself, "why did I waste a lot of time looking on that dull spot when it was connected to a vast and beautiful view?").
- THE BEST SOURCE OF AFFIRMATION: YOURSELF
If you can't love yourself, who else can? The best person to give you affirmation is actually, YOU. If you think you're great, you are great. If you think the one who rejected you is right, then they become right. You are the key to your own happiness – remember that. If you know you are, then no one else can tell you otherwise. That simple! J
It's a fact, you CANNOT please everybody. But it doesn't mean you never pleased anyone. You've got friends, family, and even random people around you who might have been impressed with you – and you don't even know it! With the different personalities and character present in this world, even the most likeable person is bound to be rejected
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by one critic out there. So it's no big deal. The worst thing that you can do is to pretend to be someone just to be accepted. If they don't like you, then most likely you won't like them.
- YOU CAN'T PLEASE EVERYBODY, BUT THERE'S SOMEONE YOU HAVE PLEASED
It's a fact, you CANNOT please everybody. But it doesn't mean you never pleased anyone. You've got friends, family, and even random people around you who might have been impressed with you – and you don't even know it! With the different personalities and character present in this world, even the most likeable person is bound to be rejected http://www.flickr.com/photos/vivetmart/2328814565/
by one critic out there. So it's no big deal. The worst thing that you can do is to pretend to be someone just to be accepted. If they don't like you, then most likely you won't like them.
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