I Was Two When I Got A Really Cool Gift

Posted by Little Miss Scribbler , Labels: , Wednesday, May 26, 2010 4:10 AM


When I was 2 years old, I asked my parents for something that:

  • I can always rely on
  • I can always turn to in times of distress
  • Will always be there for me no matter what
  • Is the closest thing to my angel
     
I thought I was getting a puppy (which was the best thing my imagination could give me)…

And then one day, I noticed my mom wasn't home for days… My dad kept going to and from the house, apparently going somewhere.

Then a few days after, I heard our car pull in the drive way – my dad had my mom with him… and They had something small; a white thing that looked like a really large egg from a distance.

I was so excited to see them that I dropped what I was doing right then and there.  I thought they got me an ostrich egg that I get to see hatch! But then as I approached, I saw something.

It was what I asked them for!

That day, they brought me home my baby sister… J


Now that I'm all grown up, I can definitely say, they got me something way, way better than a puppy! -- Or an ostrich... J

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When You Feel Like You’re Up In Flames...

Posted by Little Miss Scribbler , Labels: , Thursday, May 20, 2010 3:53 AM


There are times when you feel like:

It's your body's way of telling you that you need to rest – or perhaps a change.

 Pain is not your enemy...

Pain is your friend... the one that's brave enough to hand you the truth, while it still hurts. J
No sugar coating, no sweet lemoning... just the plain, hard truth.

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Handling REJECTION

Posted by Little Miss Scribbler , Labels: , Tuesday, May 18, 2010 11:53 AM

REJECTION [ri-ˈjek-shən]

: a noun which means the action of rejecting; or the state of being rejected.
From a child's viewpoint, it is simply:
when you are not accepted or welcome.

Now, it seems that everyone out there hasn't really outgrown the feeling of rejection.
How it all started with you is most likely different from how it started with another person.

The feeling of being rejected can be felt as early as childhood. For some, it can actually surface during teenage years and early adulthood where your ideas, opinions, habits, lifestyle, or even personality is not accepted by those around you – or worse, the people who matter to you.

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So no matter how confident or secure you think you are, at some point when you feel rejected, everything seems to come crumbling down.
And most often times this is the root of every adult's depression, insecurities, and de-motivation.

Knowing how to handle rejection can build up your confidence and make life easier and much more worthwhile.

A few pointers on how to handle rejection:


  • BE POSITIVE, STAY POSITIVE!
The moment you stop believing in yourself is the moment things become hopeless. 








  • NOBODY'S PERFECT – INCLUDING THE ONE WHO REJECTED YOU

    • You're only human, right? You have certain issues – so does other people; including the one who rejected you. In everything that happens in your life, it's not always about you. Actually, often times, it's usually them. When someone rejects you, they dislike you – but not really you. It could be you remind them of someone they had a bad experience with, or you could have projected an image that actually mirrored theirs which got them criticized in the past, or many other possibilities.
    So don't feel bad because at that time they could have been battling with their issues and you just got to meet them at a bad time.

    • STOP DWELLING ON IT
    If there's anything worse than being rejected, it's playing it over and over in your mind! It happened – let it go! The more you dwell on it, the worse you feel, the lower your confidence goes, as well your self-esteem. Sounds like a good start to retreating into your    
    own   world and becoming anti-social. So let it go, distract yourself;  find a hobby, do something interesting. Before you know it, you're well over the feeling of rejection and you have handled it well.

    • CRY, LET IT OUT, THAT'S IT!
    If what happened hurt you, go ahead and CRY. Cry, cry, cry – let it out. But that's it. Talk to your friends and family about it, and that's it. Bottling up the negative feelings brought about by rejection can eat you up and even destroy you, in a way. So let it out, it's healthy. But don't dwell on it. Don't go into self-pity. Snap out of self-pity, see how others' rejections have been worse than yours, and start living again.

    • SEE THE ENTIRE PICTURE, NOT JUST PART OF IT
    For some, the moment of rejection defines their existence. That's just a small portion of the entire picture. Instead of just looking at what's right in front of you, try moving a few steps backward – you'll be amazed at how beautiful the picture is. (And you'll be asking yourself, "why did I waste a lot of time looking on that dull spot when it was connected to a vast and beautiful view?"). 
    If you can't love yourself, who else can? The best person to give you affirmation is actually, YOU. If you think you're great, you are great. If you think the one who rejected you is right, then they become right. You are the key to your own happiness – remember that. If you know you are, then no one else can tell you otherwise. That simple! J

    • YOU CAN'T PLEASE EVERYBODY, BUT THERE'S SOMEONE YOU HAVE PLEASED
    It's a fact, you CANNOT please everybody. But it doesn't mean you never pleased anyone. You've got friends, family, and even random people around you who might have been impressed with you – and you don't even know it! With the different personalities and character present in this world, even the most likeable person is bound to be rejected
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    by one critic out there. So it's no big deal.  The worst thing that you can do is to pretend to be someone just to be accepted. If they don't like you, then most likely you won't like them.

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    Battling Depression – and Winning Over It!

    Posted by Little Miss Scribbler , Labels: , Thursday, May 13, 2010 2:04 PM


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    Depression has never been something that anyone feels should be a part of their lives.
    However, there are some who end up with it.
    The good news is that, it is not forever! Actually, if you have got the right strategy, you can extinguish it before it can say "sulk!"
    Depression can have many causes: unemployment, romantic disappointments, rejection, mid-life crisis, hormonal-related cases, etc…
    But know that all these can be defeated because you are YOU and these are just aspects of YOUR life. You control your life, not these.

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    Battle Strategies
    against Depression:

    Keep the right people close.
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    When you've got the right set of people by your side, you're already winning. A lot of people may be

    truly concerned and really cares for you, but choose who to confide in. The best people to confide are usually those who are:


    • Sincere – you don't want them dishing you in front of everyone behind your back.

    • Unbiased – they're simply objective, not subjective.

    • Good listener – that's what you really need at this time. Sometimes, people don't really need to do anything; all they need to do is listen to you, right?

    • Rational – if they're rational, then the advice they're likely to give will also be rational.

    • Sympathetic and Empathic – the perfect combination. They feel for you and they can relate on what's the feeling like for you.
    Going through the storms of your life can be difficult. But with the right set of ears, compassionate hearts, and wise words by your side, you're likely to get out of that storm in no time!


    When you fight with anger, you lose.
    Generally, when you fight with anger, you will definitely lose. Why?

    Just with the basic fact that anger
    makes you weak, discouraged, hopeless – while happiness makes you optimistic, inspired, and gives you the power to do the things that are deemed impossible to accomplish.

    So the moment you fight with anger, you will absolutely lose for the simple reason that you are already weak – so the more of it in you, the weaker you get. So if you feel it, don't sulk in it. Because if you do, you'll drown in it before you realize what's happening and sometimes it can be too late. 
                                                            

    Channel negative energy to productivity.
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    Ever wondered why Picasso's paintings are atypical? Ever wondered why Van Gogh's paintings
    are usually dark and gloomy?  Ever wondered why songs of anger and heartache seems to hit the spot dead right?

    They all have one thing in common: they channel their negative energy into productive outputs.

    So instead of allowing all those negativity to get to you and make you unproductive at work, at home, with your relationships, etc…

    Use all that negativity and transform it into productive outputs like writing a poem, painting a picture, cooking something (cooking is great therapy! It relieves your mind of all the worries by focusing on what you're trying to achieve), and so on.

    If you're not the artsy type, go out and do something! Activity and exercise releases endorphins – your body's happy hormones! Now, you can't beat that! It would be impossible for you to feel depressed with all your endorphins swimming around your body.

    Unload all the angst, leaving a clean slate for the next day.
    Therapists and psychologists suggest that individuals keep a journal or blog.  If you're a more private person, just keep a personal blog in your computer.  If you like writing over typing, keep a journal -- like a diary.

    This is not just depressed individuals. This is for everyone out there.

    The things people go through each and every single day eventually gets bottled up and can be overwhelming to the individual. That's when people start feeling burned out, depressed, heavy… That's the right term, heavy.

    Once in a while, say if not every night, once a week; unload every emotional thing you're carrying.Unload it by transferring your thoughts to your blog or journal. This will not only make you feel more ecstatic, but will guarantee more peace of mind. It relieves you of all the things – good and bad – and makes you focus on the things that are worthwhile.

    So unload it and select the things you want to keep. Sounds better than carrying all that sh*t around, right? One thing about carrying sh*t around is that, you'll end up with a lot of stink!


    Scream it all out.
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    Yes, you've got that right. SCREAM! Scream it all out until it's no more. Of course, you don't want to scare off your neighbors or those other people around you by acting like a nut case. Find a wide open space where you can just scream your heart out. There have been claims that people who felt a lot of tension tightening in their chests actually felt relief and lowered  tension and stress levels after one nice scream. It sort of brings them back to sanity – although it may make you look insane for a moment there.If you can't find a place to scream, get a pillow, put in over your face and scream all you want. If that's not enough, hit that pillow to a pulp! Some people would need more than just screaming to let it all out.This way, the pillow will not be damaged in any way, and you're feeling better. If you feel the need to let out those negative energies, don't pick up or hit breakable items – you will regret it once all those negativity has been released and you've calmed down. Pillows are your best choice.

    Finally, the key to your triumph is "YOU".
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    Okay, this is the secret to everything – and it is the most challenging of all. Some people cannot win over depression because they don't believe they can; wholeheartedly that is. When you believe you can do something, the universe – that's the energy around you, simply obeys you. So when you believe, it will happen. But if at the back of your mind you have doubts, those doubts will hinder everything.This, however, takes a lot of effort from you. You must believe that you will master depression – or else it will master you. Depression is just a nuisance that's trying to get the best of you. Are you just going to allow it to do that?





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